I’ve been away from my wife for several years and I’ve learned a lot about my relationship.
A long distance relationship is the most difficult test that love can endure.
You need to put in everything you’ve got to hold onto it.
You have to be utterly honest, dedicated and transparent with one another.
You may not share every moment with each other.
You can’t gaze into each other’s eyes and enjoy physical pleasures but the feeling of being in love overcomes the greatest physical distance.
Being in a long distance relationship makes your bond stronger and more resilient because you learn to be committed even when it’s difficult.
But most of all, the love you have for each other will make you strong enough to overcome any obstacles.
You and I are miles apart at the moment. And most people say that it’s not going to work, but no. That’s not how we see things for us two. We somehow manage to work things out. And those miles apart brought us even closer because we choose to grow together through it all.
To my loving wife and to my long distance relationship partner.
I miss you everyday!
Sometimes, I even wonder how blessed I am to have you and what I have done to deserve someone like you. Maybe it is because we are placed into each others life for a reason and everything seemed just right.
I thank you beyond words for despite of the distance that separates us you always believe in me when I didn’t believe in myself, always knowing how to put a smile on my face, encouraging me to be my best and most of all for not giving up on me.
Though I long for the times that you’re here beside me and wish I could be there with you each day, I knew, deep in my heart that one day we can permanently be together. I may see you less for now but every moment I get to see you after our time apart my heart is always filled with happiness and love which prevails how our long distance relationship is worth it.
It will never be easy. But I’ll stand by you and I knew for a certain that miles and oceans doesn’t matter for as long as we share the same sky and breathe the same air, we’re still together. Heart remains inseparable. I love you so much ❤
To my dear reader, I would like to share this snippets of wisdom about marriage and relationship:
Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.
Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.
Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.
In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!
Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!
Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.
Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.
When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”
When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”
Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.
Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone Else. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!
Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.
Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.
When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!
Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.