After 17 years, I am back in Divisoria, the shopping haven of Manila. A place where the ‘chi-chi’ crowd and the ‘masa’ converge for a ‘pleasurable’ retail experience.

As we celebrate Bonifacio day today, sugod mga kapatid! Shopping na sa Divi!

The retail hubs change but the hustles and bustles remains the same.

The sheer guts and determination of the street peddlers are one for the books. No amount of small space would hinder them to promote their business.

Every inch counts.

Shouting on top of their lungs to catch your attention.

Putting your bargaining power to the test.

Rain or shine, life moves on.


Divi is life! Bargain hunting for the Christmas season.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today:

Filipinos are the best shoppers. They are willing to spend money for quality and value for money.

Communicate with them as often as possible. Show to them that you care. Lavish them with sincere praises.

The ‘suki‘ culture or taking care of returning customers like your family will make a big difference in your business.

On the other side of the fence, the Filipino retailers are the most resilient and hardworking.

Amidst losses, they are always smiling.

Business challenges makes them strong.

As a retail marketer for almost two decades both in the Philippines and in the Middle East, the Divisoria market is the best on-the-job experience for would be retailers or successful business owners.

There are a lot of wisdom that you can learn.

From logistics, operations, finance to customer management and many more.

Pagpapawisan lang talaga ang kili-kili mo pero sulit naman!


What’s your baby milk?

During the titos and titas of Manila era (my time), breastfeeding was not as popular compared today.

This afternoon my wife and I did grocery chores and I saw Liberty milk. It was my infant’s milk up to 4-6 years old.

I don’t blame my hardworking parents who were a security guard and a baker for having a canned milk during my toddler stage.

My mother told me that she have difficulty producing milk so she resorted to over-the-counter milk formula.

Liberty milk reminded me of my humble beginnings. I grew up in a Manila high-end squatter’s area. The place was spic and span and there were no traces that it was a slum. In fact, the landlord was a successful sari-sari store owner.

My parents lived from paycheck to paycheck and it was difficult to have both ends meet.

Today, there are support groups that advocates breastfeeding where lactating moms can share their milk to other family.

Before, my father used to put a hot water on the empty can of Liberty milk to make sure that the last drop of calcium are consumed.

Liberty milk was also a symbol of my childhood days. Simple but full of meaningful memories.

Tumbang preso, patintero, chato, moro-moro, goma, text, pinitpit na tansan ng softdrinks, taguan, etc – larong kalsada na payak.

Now, infant formula are well-researched and there are specific milk for different age groups.

Gadgets became a ‘go-to yaya’ and kids now are more impatient and has a shorter attention span.

I am not sure if it was because of the baby’s milk. Is it?


Leche de libertad! My baby milk reminds me to take charge of my life whatever it takes to hell and high waters.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today:

Don’t play a victim. Be accountable for your action. Take charge. Life will never be easy but you have to commit to make it more meaningful.

Empower yourself with “I can” and “I will” statements. “I can give this talk.” “I will write this paper.” Then the juices start flowing and we rev ourselves up with positive energy.

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt


Are you a Noranian, Vilmanian, Swiftie, Bieliber, Little Monsters of Lady Gaga, Ponies of Vice Ganda, Kathniel or Jadine fanatics?

I am an AlDub fan.

I even wrote a post about it on how they entertained and accompanied me during my chemo sessions.

Recently, Maine Mendoza aka ‘Yaya Dub’ wrote an open letter to her fans and it agitated the fandom and drew mix reactions. Please see below, it will be a long read. You may learn a thing or two maybe three or more about celebrity life and how it takes a toll on her.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today:

Celebrities are human like you and me. They are hurt like you. You don’t own them so let them live who they want to be.

Tabloids, magazines, newspapers, blogs, and other forms of media constantly judge celebrities on their personalities, habits, bodies, and a lot more. Reading demeaning, rude, nasty, insulting, and derogatory lies about one’s own self is a part and parcel of a celebrity’s daily routine. From a layperson’s point of view, it’s like having a million people talk behind your back on a daily basis.

They appreciate our support but their is always boundary that we need to respect.

Like what Maine did, Sylvester Stallone put it succintly:

“I believe there’s an inner power that makes winners or losers. And the winners are the ones who really listen to the truth of their hearts.”


AlDub you! Thank you for putting a smile on our faces. Alden & Yaya Dub will always be a part of our lives.

An Open Letter To Our Fans

Hi! You might be wondering what this letter is about. Ako din, I am wondering what this letter is going to be about. I do not actually know how to start writing this letter; and I do not actually know either if it is right to do this. All I know for sure is I need to let some things out of my chest. And I couldn’t find any other way to do it so I am writing here on my blog, like I used to.

Bago ang lahat gusto ko muna magpasalamat sainyo. Sa lahat ng suporta at pagmamahal na ibinigay at ipinakita niyo sa amin. Sa mga bagay na isinakripisyo niyo alang-alang sa akin/aming dalawa ni Alden. At sa lahat ng iba niyo pang nagawa lalong-lalo na ang pagtulong niyo sa kapwa. Habang buhay akong magpapasalamat sa Diyos dahil dumating kayo sa buhay ko at nakilala ko kayo. Maraming salamat sa panahon at sa pagkakataon.

By the end of this letter I am pretty sure majority of you are going to turn your backs on me and probably hate on me. Pero sabi nga nila, speak the truth even if your voice shakes.

When I was new in the business, you all came to my life and loved me for exactly the way I am. Hindi ko kinailangang magpanggap para mahalin niyo. At nagpapasalamat ako dahil tinanggap at minahal niyo kung sino at ano ako bilang tao. Nagpapasalamat din ako sa Diyos siyempre dahil binigyan niya ako “kakayahan” at pagkakataon na magbigay ligaya sa iba. I honestly could not be more thankful for the gift of making people happy by just being myself. I believe that is a rarity here in the world of show business, but I am really thankful God had given me that some kind of knack. Maaaring wala nga akong talento pero masaya ako na nakakapagpasaya ako ng ilang mga tao. That’s more then enough for me.

I used to be REALLY amazed by the support AlDub was getting back then. I was overwhelmed by all the attention and support you are giving us. AlDub Nation 2015, ang saya saya lang. When everyone was taking things lightly and we were all just so happy. Do you still remember the good ol’ days? Back when things are so not complicated? Still worth remembering up to this time. Two years later, a lot has changed but some things remained the same. Masaya pa din kayo. I can see how happy you guys are whenever you are all together. Iba yung saya niyo tuwing magkakasama kayo. Masasabi kong ibang klase yung pagkakaibigan at samahan na nabuo sa pagsuporta niyo sa amin. At hindi ako magsasawang ulit-ulitin na sana huwag mawala yan kahit ano pa ang mangyari.

Marami kayong nagagawa hindi lang para sa amin ni Alden, kundi para na din sa iba. Marami kayong ibang natutulungan na mas higit na nangangailangan. At nagpapasalamat ako dahil ginagawa niyo yan ng kusa, dahil mayroon kayong busilak na kalooban. Salamat dahil ultimo kayo ay nakakapagpasaya din ng iba pang mga tao.

I am grateful to have all of you who have walked this path with me. But I need to be honest, I am at this point where I feel like I live in a box. I have not been able to do what I want and say what I feel because every time I try to express my thoughts and feelings, some of you tend to misapprehend and invalidate them in so many ways. Telling me I am not supposed to feel that way because I am “rich and famous”. Telling me I have no right to be sad and hurt because I have everything a person could ask for. Judging, blaming and getting mad at me for expressing what I truly feel just because you do not agree and it is inconvenient for you. Dictating me what I should feel and should not feel. Ang hirap. Yung mga taong nagsasabi na wala akong dapat na maramdaman kundi kaligayahan kasi pinagpapala ako at dapat akong magpasalamat sakanila (at sakanila lang) dahil “wala naman ako kung wala sila”. Do not get me wrong, I am thankful for everything I have right now. And I have the Lord and the people who helped and supported me along the way to thank for that. I just could not take how some people feel so entitled in so many things, hindi lang sa career, ultimo personal na buhay. Minsan nga tinatanong ko ang sarili ko, sino ba talaga ang gumawa sa akin? Ang Diyos ba o sila? Pagmamay-ari ba nila buong pagkatao ko para diktahan ako sa halos lahat ng bagay? Bakit ganun? Ganun ba dapat kapag mahal mo yung tao? Susubukan mong kontrolin ng naaayon sa kagustuhan mo? Dahil tingin mo yun yung tama? Dahil tingin mo doon siya liligaya?

Dumating yung araw na naramdaman ko na para bang hindi na ako masaya. Na kahit sandamakmak ang biyaya ang natatanggap ko, nawala na yung ligaya sa puso ko. Hindi ko na makita yung tuwa sa mga ngiti ko at kinang sa mga mata ko. Hanggang sa napagtanto ko na iyon pala ay dahil sa ilang mga tao na nakapaligid sa akin. Yung mga taong akala ko ay tunay na nagmamalasakit at nagmamahal sa akin. Mahirap. Nahihirapan akong dinidiktahan ng mga dapat kong gawin at maramdaman. Napagtanto ko na nakokompromiso na yung kalayaan at kaligayahan ko. At hindi ko kayang mamuhay ng ganoon. I want to be able to do what I want and what makes me happy because I believe that is how life should be. I do not want to compromise my own happiness for other people’s desires. So this time, I am choosing myself. Ako naman.

When AlDub happened, everything escalated. My life changed drastically when Kalyeserye began. We’ve had blessings on top of blessings. Alden and I were given so much more than we could ask for. But more than anything, we will be forever thankful that God had given us people like you. People who support us in the things we do; those who always stood by our sides and defended us against judgments and criticisms; those who love us truthfully as a pair and as two different individuals; and those who never gave up. And for all the love and efforts you have given us, you deserve to know the truth that at this very moment Alden and I are just friends. We are a love team.

I hope you understand that I am here because I love making people happy. I am blessed to be in Eat Bulaga because I get to do what I want to do, and I get to be with such amazing people. I was never into money or fame. All I want in this life is to be free and happy. And I am certain that no amount of fame and money can ever give me genuine happiness. All my life I have been seeking love from people around me. And that is all that matters to me at this moment. As I have said, as you finish reading this letter, a lot of you would probably turn your backs on me. I am ready for it; I knew this day would come. Even if I am left with a small number of supporters after posting this, kahit sampu lang yan, for as long as I know (and I feel) they truly love me and care for me, I’ll be fine. Or even if I am left with none, I have family and friends who love me dearly and will never leave my side whatever happens. Sapat na yun para sa akin.

I also owe this to everyone who were dragged into this. Our families, friends, and workmates are being bashed and ridiculed by some. Kahit sinong madikit sa amin pinagiisipan at pinagsasalitaan ng hindi maganda. Basta hindi naaayon sa kagustuhan ang mga nakikita, nagagalit. It hurts me seeing them being hurt. It hurts me how some of you are so capable and so proud of throwing so much hate on others– especially on people who care about us. Family and friends outside the industry are being taken into the wrong context, even if they do not have anything to do with the issues thrown at us. Hiling ko ang ay sana bigyan natin sila ng respeto. Naiintindihan ko na pinoprotektahan niyo lang kami, at nagpapasalamat ako sa lahat ng ginagawa niyong pagtatanggol sa amin, pero sana maintindihan niyo din na hindi kailangan maliitin ang pagkatao ng iba. Hindi niyo sila kailangan tirahin ng masasamang salita, Alam kong karamihan ng pinagdadaanan ko ngayon ay parte ng mundong ginagalawan ko. But some things are really getting out of hand, kailangan na din natin ilagay sa wasto. But then again, I know, that at the end of the day, love wins over hate. I still believe, and I fervently hope, that the same love who brought all of us here together in the beginning, will heal all scars and unite us again. Let us not focus on those who judge, but to those who love without any hesitations and expectations. I am who I am right now because of that.

Again, thank you very much for the love and support you have given me. I will forever cherish the presence of the whole fandom in my life. I do hope I have also given you enough joy for you to give me the freedom I believe I deserve. Freedom to feel what I want to feel, be what I want to be, and do what I want to do.

Alden deserves the same, too.

With so much gratitude,
That Girl


During the Kerygma Conference 2017, the image of the Our Lady of Fatima in the expo area reminded me to love and to serve God more.

The Blessed Virgin Mary’s prayer intercession made a big difference in my healing.

She inspired me to take courage always and to be humbled by God’s plan in my life.

Are we not called everyday to live for God?

Did she not model openness to God the Father in every conceivable way?

Did she leave any doubt that God’s will was more important than her own? Did she run when it was difficult? Did she flee from discomfort?

Did she trust in God even when the future was uncertain?

Did she hide Him away or share Him with the world?

She swaddled Him. She nursed Him. She guided Him through his early years. She stood beside Him; never abandoning Him; even in the most difficult moments.

Now as our Mother, would she ever abandon us? God created her. He preserved her. He picked her. He descended upon her. He grew within her.

Jesus listened to her, loved her, and honored her above any other. Not because she wanted it but because she deserves it; because she is different.

It was her ‘yes’ to God that set His brothers and sisters back on the right path.

It was her ‘fiat’ – her yes – that forever changed the world. ‘May it be done to me according to Thy will’ (Luke 1:38). One ‘yes’ opened the door to hope: hope in salvation, hope for life after death, and hope for even the most wretched of sinners.

And Christ shows us how to love her. He wants us to know her, to admire her, to respect her and to trust her as our own, so He entrusted us to her and then gave her to each of us. He wants us to know and experience the love that only a Mother can give – that only His Mother … the Mother of God – created and chosen by God, can give.

God invites you to get to know her, to meditate on her heart as a window into His own. He calls us to honor her, modeling her humility, her openness, her chastity, and her abandonment.


Mother of God. Her big ‘yes’ change the world.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today:

No Mary, no Jesus. It is as simple as that.

Just as our Blessed Mother reflects Jesus’ light more radiantly and more fully than any other human in history, so we are called – as children of our Blessed Mother – as children of the light, to reflect and radiate the love and heart of Christ to all the world.


Who is Jesus Christ to you?

As you celebrate the Feast of Christ the King today, may you deepen your relationship with Him even more.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today inspired by Fr. Antony Kadavil:

You need to surrender your life to Christ’s rule. Since Christ, our King, lives in our hearts with the Holy Spirit and His Heavenly Father and fills our souls with His grace, we need to learn to live in His Holy Presence, doing His will by sharing His forgiving love with others around us. We need to be constantly aware of His Presence in the Bible, in the Sacraments and in the worshipping community.


Jesus reigns forevermore! He is the source of our strength and our anchor of love. From me and my wife to you, have a blessed Feast of Christ the King!

The Solemnity of Christ the King is not just the conclusion of the Church year.  It is also a summary of our lives as Christians. On this great Feast, let us resolve to give Christ the central place in our lives and to obey His commandment of love by sharing our blessings with all his needy children.  Let us conclude the Church year by asking the Lord to help us serve the King of Kings as He presents Himself in those reaching out to us.  “To Him who loves us and has freed us from our sins by His Blood and made us a Kingdom, priests for His God and Father, to Him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen” (Revelation 1:5b-6).

Christus vincit! Christus regnat! Christus imperat! Christ conquers! Christ rules! Christ reigns!


Aside from sharing my healing journey last year in the 2016 SFC Middle East Conference held in Manila, I attended the 10th Kerygma Conference (the biggest Catholic inspirational event in the country) with a theme so dear to me, which was “Forward”.

It inspired me to continue life and to keep moving forward.

As a first-timer, I was grateful for the outpouring of the Holy Spirit from empowering talks.

During the event, a new theme was revealed, which was “Committed” and participants were given a target board for 2017. I wrote that my wife and I will attend the said conference whatever it takes.

Lo and behold, nothing is impossible with God!

A year in advance, I signed up. She adjusted her annual vacation.

Yesterday, November 23, 2017 (our 6th year anniversary when she gave me her biggest ‘yes’ to be my girlfriend) the conference kicked off with a blast. My wife and I hurdled all the obstacles. Thank you Lord!

The event was launched on a bigger scale and a notched higher compared to last year. I enjoyed every minute of it not only because of the spectacles but because my wife was beside me witnessing history unfold in front of our eyes.

During the opening plenary talk, I felt the sincerity and humility of Bro. Bo Sanchez to remove his name on all the marketing promo collaterals mentioning that it was his brand event because it was never his conference at all. It was from God – a calling and a mission to bring more people back to Jesus.

He profoundly shared what commitment really is, which was to die from our self and to love God more.

We should be committed more to the future than to our past. This was the key to evangelize more young people.

Our efforts to serve others must be adjusted to the current needs or else we will be left behind.

Focus on Jesus more.


Jesus never fails. Kerygma Conference 2017 “Committed”, a one-year preparation plan for me and for my wife.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today:

Attend conferences like Kerygma to deepen your commitment to love God. He will provide for all your needs (fees, work concerns, limitations, etc). He knows the innermost desire of your heart.

He knows better. He never fails.

Take it from me!


Happy Thanksgiving Day to our American comrades!

For Christians, however, Thanksgiving should be more than an end-of-November feast—it should be a lifestyle.

So, let me continue my gratitude list…

From Riyadh, KSA to Philippines these angels sent from heaven made a difference in my life.

To my father-in-law, Papa Franco Bayot you were there when the doctor blurted out the result of the biopsy, you remained calm and collected. Your lion strength were manifested in action. Thank you for your presence in our journey. You were there for me and Judith.

To my mother-in-law, Mama Dorie Bayot thank you for your strength of character. Your motherly love to me during this ordeal and your intercessory prayers were so powerful that it moved heaven to grant our heart’s desire. Thank you for reminding us to always do good amidst challenges. Kindness to others must be shared anywhere at any time.

To our family and community friends in Riyadh, who visited us in the hospital or at home – thank you for your generosity of time and resources. Your concern to me and to my wife is very much appreciated.

To Jarir Bookstore company, I miss you so much! Mr. Muaz, “mnogo vam hvala” [много вам хвала], you fought hard for my case and you are not only a boss but a brother. You stood up for me and gave the needed support and push to management. Mr. Fantoukh, shokran jazilan! Thank you for your kindness to arrange my travel back to the Philippines as smooth as possible, your concern to me is deeply appreciated. To Tito Johnny and to my colleagues at work, indeed we are not just a bookstore but a family.

To Kuya Boying and Kuya Glen who literally carried me when I was bed-ridden just to go to the hospital and drove us to and from the Cancer Institute in Batangas, thank you so much!

To Ate Celia Banaag, thank you for being a selfless nuclear physicist. Your shared time and valuable expertise meant a lot for us.

To our prayer warriors in Amadeo, Kayquit and to the rest of the world, thank you for all your intercession. Let us thank the Lord for His graces and mercy. This is God’s victory at hand!

I might have missed or forgotten some of the names to mention but you are always in my heart. Maraming salamat po sa lahat ng pagmamahal at panalangin! May the Lord richly reward you!


Grateful heart. My family on my wife side has been my source of hope and strength. From right to left, Papa Franco, Mama Dorie & Tito Bener at the back, my cousins Diane & Eva with pamangkin Carlo, sisters of my wife Kle & Aya, Jude and me paying a homage to Our Lady of Manaoag in Pangasinan last September 2017.

Here is my A Dose of Ramedy today:

Be thankful! We must thank God in everything. Not for everything, but in everything. Thank Him when you’re sick, and when you’re well.

There is power in a thankful heart.

To you, my dear reader, maraming salamat sa pagbasa ng aking blog. Kahit tatlo lang tayong nagbabasa ng blog ko, maraming blessings si Lord sa buhay natin. Siksik, liglig at naguumapaw! Soon trending worldwide na tayo!

May His abundant blessings be upon you always!