taming the tongue


My beautiful mother & the young kulit =)

When I was a kid, my mother threatened me. “If I hear from your mouth bad words or if you talk behind my back; I will wash your mouth with Tide Ultra.” Now if anyone here has tasted Tide Ultra or any soap, I’m sure you’ll agree with me. Yuck! It doesn’t taste good.


My mother is pretty smart using her tongue. She sprinkles her daily conversation with wise sayings like “Keep your tongue between your teeth” and “Think twice before you speak once.”  Or else do you want some Tide Ultra.

How do you tame your tongue? Do you wash it with Tide Ultra?

Let me share with you two ways on how to tame your tongue:

Stick out your tongue

Do you know why snakes stick out their tongue?

Snakes stick out their tongue to collect data for its Jacobson’s Organ, an organ that functions as a chemical receptor. Each time the snake flicks out its forked tongue, it absorbs chemical particles in the air that dissolves into the moisture of the tongue. The Jacobson’s organs will then identify, analyze and act upon the chemical particles absorbed by the tongue. So the snake feels the, and connects with its environment through its tongue.

Without sticking out its tongue, snakes will not survive.

Like snakes, we should always stick out our tongue to survive. It should be a source of positive thoughts, motivation and affirmation.

Stick your tongue out for more encouraging talks. Use it in uplifting people.

Muzzle your mouth

One time I helped at a funeral. There were several teenagers, their mother died. They sobbed, groaned and carried on as I’d never seen anyone do at a funeral. I said to my friend, “Oh, they must love their mother so much!” He said, “No, they’re crying in remorse. They were the most disobedient and sarcastic children ever. They always abused their mother with their words. They cut her to pieces with their tongues.”

But it was too late. Their tears couldn’t bring their mother back to life.

Many of us maybe guilty of this, when someone dies and we can’t take back the harsh words we’ve spoken only then do we see the wounds we couldn’t heal.

The tongue is an index of the heart. Our words reflect what’s in our hearts. If a man loves sports, he talks sports. If he loves money, he talks money. If he loves art, he talks art. Our speech shows where our hearts are. You can’t cover up your heart. If there’s bitterness in our hearts, it will come out through what we say and how we say it. If there’s hatred, hatred will come. If there’s anger, anger will come. Thus think twice before you speak.  Muzzle your mouth and reflect before uttering a word.

Let me share you a story, I have a friend who was a teacher, he asked his students to squeeze the toothpaste out of the tube. They did it with much glee. They even aimed at each other. It was a circus.

But, afterwards they were asked to put the toothpaste back into the tube. But to their dismay they couldn’t do it.

Indeed, it is easy to squeeze the toothpaste out but impossible to get it back in. Well, that is exactly how it is with our words. It is easy for us to say things but once the words have tumbled out of our mouths, it is impossible to take them back.

Mother Theresa once said:

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”

Indeed your kind words today will make a difference forever.

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